2 posts tagged “personal development”

If I had a penny, yes just 1p for every young person I speak to who tells me they aren’t bright, clever, pretty or nice enough I’d be a very rich woman. It makes my heart weep to hear these beliefs from anyone, particularly the young. So I want to help and if you’re reading this and feel at a low ebb, you know that black hole, then perhaps this will hit a cord and if you’re happy, filled with sunshine and warmth, well you’ll perhaps move on or read this with a friend or loved one in mind.
The first thing to do is look at yourself, go on really analyse yourself for a few minutes and perhaps grab the nearest scrap of paper and a pen.

Question: When did you last hear anything remotely good about yourself?

If you reel off a list of great moments then you’re pretty aware of your environment and you’re providing yourself with some great mood stabilizers, that’s fantastic. If you can’t remember much good and maybe it’s easy to remember the rotten moments and comments easily, well you’re going to feel pretty awful and stuck in negative thoughts about yourself.

What to do then?

Well here’s a simple thought for a chilly morning. Re-tune your day from today. List all the good things that happen to you, all the nice comments you hear. It may be a little difficult at first but this exercise is to raise your self esteem, make you walk upright and really listen out for what’s good about you.

If you aren’t really socializing at the moment perhaps find ways to have some positive communication with someone. Go on, maybe just a hello to the corner shop keeper or someone walking their dog.

Finally the whole point of the exercise is to stick to it, so write your observations daily. When you hear enough good about yourself the next step is to start your own ‘self talk’.

Give it a go...

I am a kind person...Remember the occasion you were told
I am beautiful...Remember being told
I am bright, gentle, a good friend, reliable, intuitive, responsible, dependable and so on...

Are you good enough?

YES!

We've all known struggles at some time in our lives, times when we feel like we're staring up to the summit and it's too tough to even start the climb. When we feel like this it's easy to become low and give up. It's ok wanting but how do we keep it up?

My last post was all about creating what you 'Want' and this follows on, encouraging you to make a daily promise to yourself that you're going to achieve something, anything to show the commitment to the 'Want'. I often say to clients that it's no use waiting for the bus to pass your front door, you have to go to the bus stop. So sitting at home, in the office, uni or college, waiting, simply doesn't bring you what you really want. We need to be actively attracting what we want.

So, if we want good health

Attract it by your actions, think positively about your health, perhaps walk a little more, love what your health gives you now.

If we want success

Who knows what you offer right now, who knows your strengths and how good you are?  Get out there and tell the world what you have to offer, why wait? Oh and practice a daily reminder of how good you are!

If we want a loving relationship

What do you deserve, really deserve? If you want a good man or woman then really let yourself know. How often do you settle for second best, that will do and lower your sights. How often do you just want to be with someone at the expense of that special relationship? If you really want it, focus on that and remember you can easily dilute this with the 'that'll do' attitude. Also remember that friendship helps relationships last!

Want to be happy, want to meet people?

Everyday someone has the opportunity to smile at another human being, hold a door, strike up a conversation but do we? Want to meet people, get out there!